Your inner voice is your friend or foe?

A TALK is a two way process, which means there has to be a speaker and listener for a talk to take place. Now when we talk to ourselves, some person watching might consider us abnormal. But little do they know there is a constant dialogue going on within us. Psychologists call it SELF TALK.

What is Self Talk?

Self-talk is your inner dialogue between your subconscious MIND and your SELF. As we know through research that our mind represents almost 90 percent of our brain function. Therefore it is eminent that the messages being transmitted from this part is the most dominant force in our life which influences our thoughts, beliefs, ideas, actions. Just like any other take this self talk can also be right or wrong, constructive or destructive, positive or negative, motivating or it can be distressing.

You are your own worst critic

It is famously known that when it comes to self criticisms, we are worst at it. Why is that so? Because research shows that almost 77% of our self talk is negative. So the chances are pretty high that we will only point fingers at ourselves and count the shortcomings. We will most probably completely overlook the positive aspects of that experience. Now that’s a huge decisive factor and that something we all should be aware of. Our Self Talk can actually change our behavior, our behaviors influence our actions and our actions define our life choices.

Therefore it is utmost importance that we guard our self-talk vigilantly by becoming Self-Aware of what exactly we are saying to ourselves. Once fully aware of this process, only then we will be able to begin transforming Negative Self Talk in to a more Positive form.

Road to Self Discovery

One of the most difficult things I ever did was to KNOW MYSELF. Self Discovery if one of the toughest roads I have ever taken. And it’s a long walk with lots and lots of surprises. With each valley we evolve and with each peak we are tested. With each turn we are competed and with each bump we are humbled.

In this world of chaos, distractions and worries, it is no surprise that many of us go through life without realizing our full potential, without getting to know our talents, our gifts.
The Tragedy of Life Is Not Death, But What we let die inside of us while we live.
Norman Cousins

Lately I have been reading a lot of self help and personal development literature and after reading and listening to most of the famous authors in western self help industry I reached to a conclusion that all things start and end from WITHIN.

I discovered the profound impact and importance of words we use in our daily communication with others but more importantly with OURSELVES.

How I altered my personal dialogue?

See for the rest of my life I was unaware of this called Self Talk or the Personal Dialogue that is going on within us every minute every day. If we can control and use this communication with ourselves to our advantage then the possibilities are endless. For example I used to shiver whenever I had to speak to any audience, my inner voice always told me you cannot face them? You will be embarrassed? You will choke? And now I have intentionally altered this self dialogue to 1. You can do it. 2. You have done it before. 3. Its okay to forget few things. 4. Its Toastmaster and everybody is just like me around here so take a deep breath and do your best.

What is the source of all human potential?

In his book “Who Will Cry When You Die” Robin Sharma narrated a story drawn from ancient Indian mythology about abundance of our inner potential. The story goes:

Thousands of years ago, it was believed that everyone who walked the earth was a god. But humankind abused its limitless powers so that supreme god decided to hide the godhead, the source of all of this potential, so that no one could find it. The question then became, where could such a thing be hidden? The first adviser suggested it could be placed deep in the ground to which the supreme god replied, “No, eventually someone will dig deep enough and find it.” The second adviser then offered, “What if we place the godhead at the bottom of the deepest ocean” to which the supreme god responded, “No, eventually someone will dive deep enough and find it.” The third adviser then chimed in, “Well, why don’t we put it on the top of the highest mountain?” which prompted the supreme god to reply, “No, I’m certain that eventually someone will scale that highest of peaks and find it.” After reflecting for some time, the supreme god found the solution: “I will put this source of all human power, potential and purpose inside the hearts of every man, woman and child on the planet, for they will never think to look there.”


There is a difference between simply existing and truly living. There is a distinction between simply surviving and really thriving”

As Baba Bullay Shah also said:






Parh parh Alam te faazil hoya
Te kaday apnay aap nu parhya ee na
(You read to become all knowledgeable But you never read yourself)
You read so many books to know it all,
yet fail to ever read your heart at all.
Bhaj bhaj warna ay mandir maseeti
Te kaday mann apnay wich warya ee na

(You run to enter temples and mosques But you never entered your own heart)
You rush to holy shrines to play a part,
Would you dare enter the shrine of your heart
Larna ay roz shaitaan de naal
Te kadi nafs apnay naal larya ee na

(Everyday you fight Satan But you never fight your own Ego)
You are quick to attack the evil one,
yet pride is a battle you have not won.
Bulleh Shah asmaani ud-deya pharonda ay
Te jera ghar betha unoon pharya ee na

(Bulleh Shah you try grabbing that which is in the sky But you never get hold of What sits inside you)
You grab for a star you can control,
yet fail to grasp the light in your soul.

The Tragedy of Life Is Not Death, But What we let die inside of us while we live.
Norman Cousins